A group of disabled queer Black folks talk and laugh at a sleepover, relaxing across two large beds. Everyone is dressed in colorful t-shirts and wearing a variety of sleep scarves, bonnets, and durags. On the left, two friends sit on one bed and paint each other’s nails. On the right, four people lounge on a bed: one person braids another’s hair while the third friend wearing a C-PAP mask laughs, and the fourth person looks up from their book. In the center, a bedside lamp illuminates the room in warm light while pill bottles adorn an end table. Image Credit:“Jonathan Soren Davidson for Disabled And Here.”

There are a lot of situations in which a person will need to disclose sexual health information to a partner(s) or potential partners. Sharing personal information like a sexually transmitted infection, unplanned pregnancy or exposure to Covid can feel like a really big undertaking. Sharing health history can be an incredibly vulnerable practice. Many people experience shame related to health outcomes. Some people may experience judgment about Covid exposures, STIs and or unplanned pregnancy. …


Illustration credited as “Sherm for Disabled And Here.” Disabled And Here project page. Alt Text: Illustration of a young person is sitting at a desk looking at a computer with a generic website pulled up. Color scheme is different shades of purple.

Porn can be a scary or stressful topic for adults to address with the young people in their lives. It is often a topic that is avoided at all costs, or it is addressed in a way that is shaming or hurtful to the young person. More than ever during this pandemic, young people have unsupervised access to screens, which means more opportunities to accidentally or intentionally stumble upon porn. Now add the layer of disability or neurodivergence, and porn can become even more confusing for a young person. We as trusted adults can’t ignore the porn conversation. A lot…


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The recent start to the school year in the United States has been like no other before it. The Covid-19 pandemic is creating challenges for many families. Some are experiencing all online, distance learning. Some have a hybrid model to navigate. Others are in school while wearing protective masks and trying to maintain physical distance.

Because of these different ways of learning, the challenge to connect with students may have intensified for many teachers. We know that a feeling of connection, of being seen and heard, is one of the most important things in the development and education of young…


Four stacked books with a red apple on top. Colored pencils strewn about and three ABC blocks stacked on top of each other.
Four stacked books with a red apple on top. Colored pencils strewn about and three ABC blocks stacked on top of each other.
Photo by Element5 Digital on Unsplash Alt Text: Four books stacked on top of each other with a red apple on top. Five colored pencils laying on wooden desk with ABC blocks stacked to the right of the pencils.

Going back to school is an exciting time of year for many students, teachers and families. This year is different for most families in the United States. A lot of big events and changes have happened in our country, and navigating those changes may be a challenge to teachers and parents as students go back to school. School itself may be a lot different. Online and hybrid formats are new to many learners and teachers. People are expected to work from home while their kids are at home doing online learning. Some parents have to go to work and find…


Alt Text: A floating book surrounded by a stack of books in a circle in a book store filled with old books. Photo by Jaredd Craig on Unsplash

Social stories can be used to help make sense of our ever-changing and challenging world. While primarily created for people with autism, you could use social stories with people of all ages and abilities to help clarify certain topics and teach about social norms and daily procedures. Carol Gray is known as the developer of Social Stories. The following definition is found on her website “Social Stories are a social learning tool that supports the safe and meaningful exchange of information between parents, professionals, and people with autism of all ages.” This social story, called Covid 19: I Can Help…


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Happy National Sex Ed for All Month! We are excited to celebrate and share ways to support sexuality education for all people. Sexuality education gained popularity in the United States during the 1960s. Along with the movement of Free Love and more open relationships, the awareness around the need for sex education grew. In the 1980s more people started to get on board with comprehensive sex education, probably in large part to the aids epidemic at that time. In the 1990s SEICUS (The Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States) created a national task force and worked on…


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Hey all! Friendly reminder that consent is still very important during the stay at home orders. Many of us are staying at home and spending more time than usual with the people we live with. On the other hand there are many of us who are not able to see our loved ones: friends, family, romantic partners. Whoever you are or whatever your situation is right now, most of us are experiencing a new normal and that can feel overwhelming and scary…or maybe a little bit fun. While the world around us may feel new and uneasy, some things have…


A pie graph that shows different parts of sexuality: health, gender, sexual orientation, body image, love and relationships.
A pie graph that shows different parts of sexuality: health, gender, sexual orientation, body image, love and relationships.
A pie graph that shows different parts of sexuality: health, gender, sexual orientation, body image, love and relationships.

Questions about sexuality don’t stop during a quarantine. Chances are, the young people in your life may have even more questions than usual, or maybe you are more accessible to them and more questions are coming up. Young people are doing a lot of work online right now, and there is a high likelihood that they will come across something sexually explicit. Your young person may have COVID-19 related sex education questions. Is the virus sexually transmitted? Can I kiss or hold hands with my boyfriend/girlfriend/partner? Why can’t I hang out with the person I am in a relationship with…


Alt Text: The famous Minnesota cherry in the spoon art sculpture at dusk with a gaggle of geese in the background. A small child in the foreground wearing a pink dress and laughing.

Taking care during a difficult time can be very challenging. Staying calm during a pandemic is no easy task. It is hard enough to find ways to stay calm on days that aren’t a part of a pandemic. It is easy to get caught up reading Facebook posts that create fear and panic for many people. There is a lot to be worried about, and people with compromised immune systems and or disabilities need our help in being vigilant and helping to keep them safe. We also acknowledge that fear and panic are very real feelings. …

Sexuality for All Abilities

Sexuality for All Abilities provides sexuality education for people with developmental and/or intellectual disabilities. madhatterwellness.com FB @SFAAbilities

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